When it comes to raising kids, actions speak louder than words. Everything we do as parents sets an example for them to follow, and this is particularly true when dealing with smartphones, tablets, and other forms of screen-based media.
Of course, there are times when parents (and other adults) require phones or laptops to do important tasks, but we also frequently reach for our phones out of boredom. The average Canadian adult spends over 3 hours a day scrolling for fun. That’s about 46 days a year.
If you’re looking to encourage healthier screen habits at home, it can be helpful to think about the activities and interests you enjoy away from your devices. Try to engage in activities that demonstrate to your child that there is an interesting world to discover beyond the screen. Some ideas to explore include:
- Meeting up with friends in person
- Reading physical books
- Listening to music or learn an instrument
- Drawing, painting or other creative pursuits
- Daily exercise
- Gardening or spending time outdoors
- Trying new recipes together
- Going for walks without headphones
- Hosting friends or family over to connect face-to-face
The goal isn’t to eliminate screens, but to create a healthy balance and show kids and teens the many ways to stay curious, connected, and engaged in the world around them.
Finally, consider a few small changes that will help you feel more in control of your time and attention. These could include:
- Checking your social media less often and do so when you’re not in the presence of your kids.
- Making a phone call instead of sending a text.
- Keeping your phone plugged into the wall at home. Treat it like a landline, instead of carrying it around. Turn off unnecessary notifications.
- Seeking out analog alternatives, like paper planners, calendars, real alarm clocks, wristwatches, physical cookbooks, and handwritten grocery lists.
- Whenever possible, follow the 4T rule – no talking, texting, tapping on a phone, or TV when someone else is present.
The overall goal is to instill in your child a sense of appreciation for being present, active, and engaged in the real world.
As parents, we sometimes make mistakes and have regrets about how we handled tech in the past, but what matters is how we act going forward. Show your children how to use digital devices in a way that’s smart, responsible, and adds value to their lives, and then happily miss out on the rest.
Katherine Martinko is an editor and writer with more than 12 years of experience in digital publishing, and the author of “Childhood Unplugged: Practical Advice to Get Kids Off Screens and Find Balance.” An award-winning speaker, she presents to community groups and schools on behalf of The Anxious Generation campaign, helping families curb device use, get outside, embrace risky play, and build independence and resilience.